Bryce and I watched a couple of movies last night. It definitely became a little uncomfortable for me, because they involved sex. Ironically, I was watching a movie about a nymphomaniac with an asexual. It felt like I was watching a dirty movie with my younger brother. I don’t have a younger brother, but if I did that is exactly how it would feel like. It was shocking when Bryce asked why Ray (Christina Ricci) from Black Snake Moan was wrapping herself into chains. He had no idea why she would be doing that. “She’s about to masturbate,” I said as if I am teaching sex education to a 5th grader. The movie made me desire that physical intimacy that I am lacking in my marriage. It was obvious, it did nothing for him.The idea of pornography sprucing up our sex life has been in the back on my head for a while now. Just a couple of weeks ago, I brought the subject up with my husband hoping that it would be the solution to our troubles. He did not seem at all interested in it and even said pornography would not turn him on. That seems odd, because Max After Dark seems to do the trick for me just fine.
I wanted to thank you for this small blog. I just recently discovered that my own husband (of five months) is asexual. I'm glad to know that I'm not alone here. It kills me inside thinking of all the pain that he's causing me, but isn't. How do you survive? Your blog is old, but I am glad it's here. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI have been married for 26 years and pretty much that whole time its been sexless.
ReplyDeleteI'm curious if you are still with your husband?
We have 2 girls aged 16 & 11 and I am a stay at home mom. I would be gone from this marriage if money wasn't an issue. I feel stuck. I am stuck right here.
I know this is an old blog, but reading this is literally like reading about my own life right now. I'm 27 and just realized that I'm fairly certain my husband is asexual. I am struggling with the exact same inner turmoil as you had... So I HAVE to know where you are now after all these years, after this moment in your life. Did you stay with him? Did you leave him? Did you cheat on him? Did you have children? Do you regret whatever decision(s) you made? I really need some guidance or advice from someone who has lived this. Hopefully you will see this and respond.
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